Blogging is such a competitive industry, and obviously people are different. Some may like you, while some may not...The fact is you can't make 100 people like you because this is it, the reality. Honestly, I am blessed to be surrounded kind-hearted friendly bloggers, yet I know that some just do not like me. Human-being is weird sometimes, you know...People can just hate each other by the faces "I don't like her and I just don't know why" I think at least some of us have had such experience once in a lifetime. As a girl, that's what we kinda bitchin' about it. However, it doesn't matter what others may say about you because at the end of the day "you've got your back"
Dog is a human's best friend, and I do agree. But sometimes, human is not the human's best friend. We can smile in front of one another, but who knows what's the real reason behind that. I have met a lot of great fashion bloggers via the Instagram, and it turns out that they are super duper friendly in person. However, I have also met some people who just being fake and arrogant. Like I said, we all are different. It is a diversity throughout this online sphere. Though, you might have 10K followers, not like everyone is gonna love you and that amount of number. Jealousy is all around. Yet, we don't have to seek for the approval from others, do we? I have read a book call "Detox your ego" and I really love it! I have learnt a lot from the author, as I was going through the downtime of trying to please everyone. Yep, I was a people pleaser and it was shitty. Tbh, it was just a chaos inside my heart when I didn't receive a good feedback or hospitality like I tried to give others. "I wonder why she didn't like me? What have I done?" These questions popped up inside my head almost everyday. I could not focus on anything because I was seeking for the answer for the questions I had...Eventually, this book has pulled me off the water.
I wanted people to like me and I wanted all of them to talk only good things about me. That didn't happen ( I would be a mind-reader if I could control what others think!).The book's suggested that I wanted it too much and it's true. Ask yourself "Do you want it too much?" when you are trying to please everyone, or when you want everyone to like you. When something is too much, it is off the balance, right? This is such a selfish situation because we just want the good stuff for ourselves. We only want people to accept us, we only want them to love us... That makes us happy, right? Seriously, it is too much and selfish to the extreme. It only cause a turmoil inside our hearts when we mess around the feelings of wanting to be accepted too much. Isn't it true?
Stop thinking about what others are thinking about you if you do not want to make it's going worse. STOP. You can stop such down feelings inside your heart by just simply acting 'selfless' Like the book has taught me. Acting selfless can make me calm actually. It makes me stop seeking for approval, as well as, attention from others because I just let everything go. Likewise, you DO NEED ANYONE TO APPROVE WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU DO BECAUSE YOU ARE YOU! What if they don't like me? Just fuck it and walk away. You are not forced to talk or live under the same roof with them. Well, you might encounter people you do not like at the event at some points, but hey just act like a PRO. You are selfless remember, and you've got your back. Remember, stop being selfish by wanting people to love you because it only creates the turmoil of the feelings. Stop wanting it TOO MUCH, it is just the act of selfishness when you only want people to love you.
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